Field notes on the slow work of becoming yourself.
Reflections on stillness, relationship, the nervous system, and the quiet effort of change — written between sessions, for anyone doing this work alongside me.
“If there is no struggle, there is no progress.” — Frederick Douglass
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Hollywood Lies About Love, Here Is the Truth
The real soul-mate: Tolkien’s surprising marriage advice. In 1941, J.R.R. Tolkien wrote a letter to his son Michael with completely counterintuitive wisdom on love. It made me cringe to read it, but it also made sense…
Read more →Breaking Free From the Prison of the Mind
Lately, I’ve been sitting with something deep. Stillness. Not the kind we force, but the kind that finds us when we finally stop running from ourselves. This stillness has shown me something: we’re often not afraid of life — we’re afraid of what we’ll feel if we stop distracting ourselves…
Read more →There Is Incredible Aliveness and Energy Waiting for You to Be Experienced
This year, I started with a profound experience of doing a pilgrimage in India. We spent two weeks with an awakened teacher and visited multiple temples and places every day. These two weeks broke my mind…
Read more →How to Not Be Stressed and Miserable This Christmas
Discover the hidden reason why Christmas can be so challenging — and how to make it better. In just a few weeks it’s Christmas again. For many, it’s a time of togetherness and joy — but it can also be a time of…
Read more →Not Getting What I Wanted Gave Me Exactly What I Needed
Finding fulfillment in life by making a you-turn and doing the deeper work. Have you ever felt that nagging frustration of not getting what you want in your relationship — or any part of life? If you have, you’re not alone…
Read more →Find Clarity Through Deep Self-Listening
Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the “shoulds” and “coulds” bugging you — those persistent voices telling you what’s expected, what you should do, or what you could be doing? These thoughts cloud your inner clarity, create overwhelm, fuel procrastination, drain your energy…
Read more →Why Is It So Hard to Change
We all know the frustration of making promises to ourselves, only to break them. Over time, this erodes our trust in ourselves — but it doesn’t have to be like that. The hardest part of change is often admitting to ourselves that we need to change…
Read more →The Paradox of Enlightenment
The willingness to look at the things you don’t want to see is what sets you free. Enlightenment — the liberation from suffering — requires us to turn towards, rather than away from, the very things we fear and want to escape. How unfair…
Read more →Bring Back the Magic in Your Relationship
There is so much more we can get out of the relationships in our life — discover some ideas on how you can deepen the connection and experience more closeness and satisfaction. Yes, it involves effort and creativity, but I promise, it will be worth…
Read more →When You Catch the Pattern, You Can Change It
Have you noticed a pattern of, let’s say, frustration and anxiety? We humans love familiarity — it keeps us safe. We decide something about ourselves and the world around us, and…
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